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Some Digital Neighborhoods Better for Dating

Monday, November 19th, 2007

By Jocelyn Voo (LifeWire) — With social networking sites like Facebook and MySpace now in the digital dating mix, there are plenty of new chances to meet the right — and wrong — people online.

Grayson Currin, 24, of Durham, North Carolina, who describes himself as a "big, burly guy," posted his band’s photograph on his MySpace account and started getting messages from a girl in Canada who had a thing for large, hairy guys. "It felt a little unnatural to me," says Currin. "I don’t send messages to random girls. I think that’s creepy."

Jennifer Kelton, a Los Angeles-based writer and creator of the social networking and dating site maintains that social networking sites offer an attractive alternative to more established online dating sites like or eHarmony.

"People are fed up with the online dating world," says Kelton. "They realize that there is a lot of misrepresentation out there. On a social networking site you are interfacing with people on a different level. Facebook and MySpace create more of a safe and loving environment," she contends.


Dating After Divorce: When to Reveal Your Past

Tuesday, November 6th, 2007

By Jocelyn Voo (LifeWire) — After his 10-year marriage ended in 2004, New Yorker Phil Lee, 42, found himself tagged with the modern-day scarlet letter: "D" — divorced. He wondered how that (not to mention his three children, ages 19, 11 and 9) would affect his future dating life.

The fitness-business owner says it hasn’t been much of a hindrance. In fact, his children are usually an icebreaker.

"At my age, a lot of the women I meet have children themselves, so it’s generally a back-and-forth over each other’s children," says Lee. He jokes, "Women that don’t have children and don’t want to have children don’t really talk to me."

Although the divorce rate is the lowest it’s been since 1970 (3.6 per 1,000 people), about 40 to 45 percent of all marriages will end in divorce, according to an Associated Press estimate.

A Dutch study this year showed that divorce reduces one’s chances of having a new, successful relationship — slightly more for women than for men. Children reduced the chances further. It’s no wonder newly dating divorcees may be hesitant to mention the details.


Cheap Date: What to Do?

Friday, November 2nd, 2007

By Jocelyn Voo (LifeWire) — Anna Hake, 24, and her boyfriend were hunting for some interesting — and inexpensive — ways to spend time together. Their solution: making a date to attend the Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco, touted as the world’s largest showcase for S&M products and culture.

"We walked by a table with floggers and whips on it, and the guy running the booth encouraged us to give it a try," says Hake, a nonprofit organization program coordinator who lives in San Francisco. "We both looked at each other and were, like, ‘When in Rome…’ "

Though the couple decided it ultimately wasn’t for them, the experience was memorable.

"We may not be into bondage," Hake says, "but it was good for bonding."

And all it cost was a small donation that benefited local nonprofits.


Love Addiction: How to Break It

Tuesday, October 16th, 2007

By Jocelyn Voo (LifeWire) — After a break-up with with your spouse, significant other or love of your life, you might try to remain friends with your ex, slowly cut off contact, or torch every last relic of the relationship.

But one thing is inevitable: Eventually you have to move on. So why is it that some people have a hard time letting go, months or even years after ending a relationship? Although it’s natural to mourn the loss of a relationship, some people take such feelings too far.


Sex and Dating After 50

Tuesday, October 9th, 2007

By Jocelyn Voo

art.over50.jpg (LifeWire) — Like 20- or 30-something singles, older men and women are dating and embracing their sexuality. But many older singles — some of whom have already been down the aisle — aren’t looking to exchange their single status for a band of gold.

"We are not aiming for great changes in the second half of life, but looking for fulfillment in who we are now," says Sharon Romm, a Seattle-based psychiatrist and author of "Dating After 50: Negotiating the Minefields of Midlife Romance."

"Not everyone wants another marriage. Someone might want a companion for going to concerts on Saturday night and not much more. Others might absolutely want — or not want — sex as part of another relationship."


How to Enjoy Vacationing With In-Laws

Thursday, October 4th, 2007

By Jocelyn Voo

art.inlaw.vacation.jpg (LifeWire) — There’s no more potentially problematic situation than a long family vacation — except one that includes your in-laws. Bring young children along and the chance of things unraveling increases even more.

Here are tips for preserving relationships during your getaway.


Public Affection: How Much is Too Much?

Friday, September 28th, 2007

By Jocelyn Voo

(LifeWire) — When actor Richard Gere swept Bollywood actress Shilpa Shetty into his arms and planted several kisses on her during an AIDS awareness event in New Delhi, the act prompted an Indian court to issue a warrant for his arrest.

Though Gere’s behavior was tame by American standards, it was deemed obscene in India, where such public displays of affection (also known as PDA) are frowned upon.

Reaction to that caress earlier this year was so intense that posters of Shetty and effigies of the "Pretty Woman" actor were burned. Five months later, the actress was wrongfully detained on the obscenity charges, her publicist, Dale Bhagwagar, told The Associated Press.

That kiss involved two actors at a publicity event in Asia, but even in the United States, people struggle with PDA and deciding how much is too much. And even married couples can take some heat over the issue.


Why Do Unmarried Couples Opt Out of Wedlock?

Wednesday, September 19th, 2007

By Jocelyn Voo (LifeWire) — First comes love, then comes marriage — or at least that’s how the saying used to go. An increasing number of heterosexual couples have been shacking up without plans for a trip down the aisle.

According to a 2003 U.S. Census Bureau report on families and living arrangements, 4.6 million U.S. households were occupied by unmarried couples of the opposite sex. That’s up from 2.9 million in 1996.

"People don’t question, ‘Why did you get married?’ They only ask you, ‘Why haven’t you gotten married?’ " points out Marion Willetts, an associate professor of sociology at Illinois State University. "I think a lot of people feel if you were really serious about your partner and your relationship, then you’d get married."

But from what Willetts has found with the life partners she’s spoken to, that is simply not true. "They’re in this for the long haul," she says. "This isn’t just some convenient thing or trial marriage. They’re just as committed to their relationship as married people."


Older Women and Younger Men: Can It Work?

Monday, September 17th, 2007

By Jocelyn Voo (LifeWire) — Older woman seduces younger man. Sound familiar? It’s a scene from the 1967 coming-of-age classic "The Graduate."

But high-profile Hollywood couples like Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins (12 years her junior) — who met and began dating while filming an on-screen romance in the 1988 movie "Bull Durham" — have proven that life can indeed imitate art when it comes to matters of the heart.

Theirs, however, is a real-life love story of an older woman and younger man — something that is not so uncommon nowadays. A 2003 study by AARP revealed that 34 percent of all women over 40 in the survey were dating younger men, and 35 percent preferred it to dating older men.


Does Your Love Life Need a Wingman?

Thursday, September 13th, 2007

By Jocelyn Voo (LifeWire) — Many men are not natural-born charmers when it comes to talking to women they find attractive. It’s hard work sounding witty and engaging when you’re fighting back nerves.

One thing that can assist a socially shaky bachelor is a wingman — another man who provides support and cover the way Navy fighter pilots protected each other in the 1986 film "Top Gun," which is credited with popularizing the term.

As Mystery, the self-styled Casanova and host of the VH1 show "The Pickup Artist" explains, a wingman can help attract a woman at a bar or a club — he’s someone who will talk you up, make the introduction and even help you get her phone number.

But not every guy is well-suited for being a wingman, says Ron Geraci, 37, a New York City-based relationships expert and author of "The Bachelor Chronicles." Here is a checklist of qualities to look for in an effective wingman — and a few tips on which buddies to avoid.