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10 Tips for Parenting Only Children

Thursday, October 26th, 2006

By Jocelyn Voo
AmericanBaby.com (via Parents.com)

She’s the love of your life. Your pride and joy. Your little baby and your big girl. She’s the only child, and — for better or worse — she’s going to get all your love and attention. Because of that fact, only children tend to mature quickly, live to please others, and are born leaders. Here’s how to use birth order traits to your parenting advantage.

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10 Tips for Parenting Firstborns

Tuesday, September 26th, 2006

By Jocelyn Voo
AmericanBaby.com (via Parents.com)

Firstborn children tend to become mini-adults far before their years. They are hardworking, diligent achievers who’re ready and able to please the adults around them. Of course, they also can be a bit controlling about having things done “their way.” Here, 10 tips on how to groom your firstborn to make these predisposed characteristics work in his favor.

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10 Tips for Parenting Middle Children

Tuesday, September 26th, 2006

By Jocelyn Voo
AmericanBaby.com (via Parents.com)

Middle children tend to get lost in the sibling shuffle, so to get your attention, their behavior may range from one extreme (acting somewhat rebellious) to the other (being a people-pleaser). Here, how to use their birth order traits to your parenting advantage.

1. Reassure your child. To counteract the attention you lavish upon your overachiever firstborn and spotlight-hogging lastborn, the middle-born child needs to experience acceptance exactly for who he is — mistakes included, write Cliff Isaacson and Kris Radish in The Birth Order Effect (Schwartz Books). If you child makes a mistake, you need to emphasize that his punishment is not related to his siblings, nor do they change the fact that you still care about him. Explaining the reason behind the punishment is especially crucial when dealing with a middle-born child, who’s already feels lost in the mix.

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10 Tips for Parenting Lastborn Children

Saturday, August 26th, 2006

By Jocelyn Voo
AmericanBaby.com (via Parents.com)

Lastborn children tend to compensate for their younger age by stealing the spotlight from their older siblings. Though their attention-hogging tactics can range from innocent to manipulative, it can work in your favor if you know how to use their traits your parenting advantage. Here, how to give lastborn kids the attention that they deserve.

1. Play fair. Often times a parent can become so preoccupied worrying about her oldest child’s upcoming school spelling bee or making sure the middle child isn’t making mud soup in the kitchen, she’ll neglect the youngest one’s needs. “You’ll have to make sure the youngest child is included,” says Meri Wallace, a child and family therapist for over 20 years and author of Birth Order Blues (Owl Books). “If the oldest one is always having playdates, you might try to make sure to arrange one for the youngest one.” This will strengthen the youngest child’s sense of identity as an integral part of the family.

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Birth Order and Personality

Friday, August 25th, 2006

By Jocelyn Voo
AmericanBaby.com (via Parents.com)

“The one thing you can bet your paycheck on is the firstborn and second-born in any given family are going to be different,” says Dr. Kevin Leman, a psychologist who has studied birth order since 1967 and author of The Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are (Revell). But how is it that a gregarious comedian and a reclusive, introspective thinker can be so different yet share the same genes? Psychologists like Leman believe the secret to sibling personality differences lies in birth order — whether you’re a first-, middle-, last-born, or only child — and how parents treat their child because of it.

Meri Wallace, a child and family therapist for over 20 years and author of Birth Order Blues (Owl Books), agrees. “Some of it has to do with the way the parent relates to the child in his spot, and some of it actually happens because of the spot itself. Each spot has unique challenges,” she explains.

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