Culture + Lifestyle

Liar, Liar: Truth be Told, We All Tell Some Whoppers on the Job

By Jocelyn Voo
New York Post | Nov. 24, 2008

So maybe you aren’t entirely proficient at Microsoft Excel, despite what you wrote on your resume. And sure, maybe the product you’re hawking isn’t as amazing as you’re making it out to be, but everyone knows understatement doesn’t pay the bills. And you’ll be taking a few days off work because your grandmother died . . . again . . . for the fourth time?

Lying in the workplace is nothing unusual. According to a 2006 survey by, 19 percent of workers admitted to stretching the truth at least once a week (and many of the others were likely stretching the truth when they reported otherwise), so you’re not alone when you claim your BlackBerry must’ve malfunctioned, or that you missed work because of food poisoning. In fact, some experts would argue that while you may be being dishonest, you’re also just being smart.

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How to Survive Warm Weather Weddings

By Jocelyn Voo | July 10, 2008

(LifeWire) — Ahh, warm weather weddings: Nothing evokes a festive mood like triple-digit temperatures and man-eating mosquitoes.

The happy couple’s event planning may have you worrying about the elements, but there are lots of strategies for surviving warm weather weddings without feeling like you’re stuck in the Sahara.

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Exit Strategies: A.M. Routines Run the Gamut from Calming to Chaotic

By Jocelyn Voo
New York Post | June 9, 2008

In a town where “fashionably late” is the norm, there’s one instance where time is of the essence: getting to work in the morning.

But it’s no easy matter. Factor in housemates or spouses fighting for the bathroom, jam-packed trains, endless lines at Starbucks and the occasional losing battle with a hangover and/or snooze button, and you’re pretty much guaranteed a no-show at your 9 a.m. meeting.

Anticipating such obstacles, many locals have their morning routines down to a science. They run the gamut from those who make it from bed to door faster than most people down their first cup of joe to those whose a.m. ritual is practically a separate shift.

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Drudgery Report: Tedium is Enemy No. 1 at Work

By Jocelyn Voo
New York Post | Feb. 18, 2008

On the seventh hour of his 8½-hour shift at a Midtown office building, Laz, 41, looks weary as he stands with his hands clasped in front of him.

“The standing is the worst part,” says the security guard of three years.

Invisibly tethered to his post, he paces back and forth a few feet from his original spot to keep the blood moving in his legs. Listening to music is forbidden. Dispensing directions to lost guests is the extent of his socializing.

The good part, Laz says, is meeting the celebrities and athletes that come through, though “meet” is defined loosely, considering he never gets to converse with them, just nod and open the guarded glass gates with a smile.

But compared to his old job, this gig’s a dream.

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Young Women Choosing Careers Over Love

By Jocelyn Voo| Jan. 4, 2008

art.women.jpg (LifeWire) — Olga Boyko, 23, has finished her studies at Antioch College and will be graduating in the spring. But she isn’t putting her career on hold while she waits for her boyfriend of more than two years to graduate.

“Though I’m not planning on breaking up with my boyfriend, I am leaving him behind in Ohio,” says Boyko, who’s aiming for work in the publishing industry. “It’s hard to get your foot in the door of the field I want to work in. And let’s face it: Nowadays you have to cover your butt if you want to make it anywhere.”

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Honestly, All of Us Are Liars By Jocelyn Voo | Jan. 1, 2008

(LifeWire) — Admit it: At some point, you’ve lied. Maybe it was the time you told your aunt that her hand-knit holiday sweater was “exactly what you wanted.” Or when you explained to human resources that you’d missed the big company meeting because your grandmother died … again.

Take heart, though; you’re not Machiavellian. You’re just normal.

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Coping When Loved Ones Have Dangerous Jobs

By Jocelyn Voo and Margot Weiss | Nov. 27, 2007

(LifeWire) — RoseEllen Dowdell wakes up in the middle of the night, thinking about her sons, one in the military and one a firefighter. Kristina Zimmerman changes the channel when she hears of another soldier killed — not wanting to worry about her husband, a military policeman.

For them, and for other families of firefighters, soldiers, police officers, miners or anyone else who risks death to do their jobs, anxiety is a part of life.

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Do You Have a Frenemy?

By Jocelyn Voo (LifeWire) — After two years of backbiting, former best friends forever Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie returned to back scratching — just in time to promote another season of their reality television show, “The Simple Life.”

Former friends and roommates Lauren Conrad and Heidi Montag, however, remained estranged as “The Hills” began its third season in August.

At its height, the showdown between Montag and her Machiavellian boyfriend Spencer Pratt and fan-favorite “L.C.” threatened to overwhelm the reality show.

These two love-hate, friend-enemy relationships are high-profile examples of the “frenemy” phenomenon.

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NYC: Single, Sexy & Smoking Hot!

By Jocelyn Voo
New York Post | Dec. 3, 2006

OVER the past five months, The Post surveyed hundreds of New Yorkers from all five boroughs on their dating and sexual habits. We crunched thousands of numbers and read scores of pick-up lines.

And frankly, at this point, New York, we don’t know whether we should high-five you or wash our hands.

In this town, the stereotypical “boy meets girl” courtship is an anomaly. In figures gleaned from daters in our Meet Market pages and visitors to, we found lots of singles – 45 percent, to be exact – happily hopping from bed to bed. That a lot of hot sheets, especially since New York is the second most single place in the nation, trailing just behind Washington, D.C.

The U.S. Census tells us that 46 percent of us are unattached, but only a Post poll could tell how many of us have tried to seduce someone just because they’re famous.

Or which borough is the sluttiest (Hint: It’s the one with “Fuhgeddaboudit” signs hung all over.) Or when it’s the right time to tell your love monkey about casual drug use.

And only a New Yorker could consider an affair with someone who lives five miles away “long distance.” But that’s exactly what 48 percent of Manhattanites think about all you borough-dwellers.

Regardless of whether it’s about bedroom behavior or general relationship quirks, the numbers don’t lie: New York singles have no problem kissing and telling.


Outlaws of the Sporting World: Roller Derby Girls

By Jocelyn Voo
Curve magazine | October 2006

No one can deny that roller derby girls are tough. Broken bones and bruises the size of ham hocks are expected in the sport, and judging by the ferocity which with players jam, block and generally manhandle their opponents in the rink, these girls are out for blood. As Kasey Bomber, co-captain of Los Angeles’ Trust Fund Terrors, puts it, “You will get hit, you will get hurt. A girl has to accept that almost welcome it if she wants to succeed here. This isn’t a Yahtzee tournament.”

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Quiz: Do You Reveal Too Much Personal Information?

By Jocelyn Voo
Ladies’ Home Journal online | June 2006

Are you guilty of TMI: Too Much Information? Many of us spill one too many personal details every now and then. But if you find yourself offering up the inside dirt on your life on a regular basis, you could be making others uncomfortable, and might be alienating people whose good opinion you value. So take our quiz and find out whether you’re sharing just a little too much.

Director’s Cut: Gay Pride Directors Speak Out

By Jocelyn Voo
Curve magazine | June 2006

Pride — with its hard bodies, disco divas and endless partying — often seems to be a boys’ wonderland, but several of the biggest Pride celebrations in the United States are actually run by lesbians. Here’s their insider’s guide to what it takes to put on a festival to remember.

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Can America’s Next Top Model Get Any Gayer? Just Ask Kim Stolz

By Jocelyn Voo
Curve magazine | April 2006

It’s hard not to admire a girl who unapologetically eats a Big Mac three times a week despite its artery-clogging composition and questionable meat sources. It’s nearly impossible when that girl is also a model.

Kim Stolz is the latest lesbian to brave Tyra Banks’ reality television catwalk and emerge relatively unscathed from the unforgiving lens. America’s Next Top Model, soon to be in its sixth season, has featured queer girls before—out contestant Ebony in the premiere cycle and bisexual wrestler Michelle in season four—but perhaps unlike the previous girls, Stolz worker her masculine tendencies to her advantage from day one.

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Provincetown Pleasures

By Jocelyn Voo
Curve magazine | December 2005

Tucked away on the tip of Cape Cod in Massachusetts is a tight-knit population of 3,500 — a town inhabited by a diverse mix of Portuguese immigrants, eclectic artisans and friendly locals enjoying the prime seaside real estate. Quaint bed-and-breakfasts cluster along the waterfront, white picket fences and artist communes are located mere blocks from each other, and on any given day you’ll see residents biking the miles of trails winding up the coast. The area exudes the boho charm of Santa Cruz, the entrepreneurship of Silicon Valley and the lazy sensibility of a European fishing village. And it’s also arguably gayer than a pair of chintz ass chaps.

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Bloggers Exposed

By Jocelyn Voo
Curve magazine | November 2005

"I basically had a story about an ex-girlfriend that I thought was funny," says Chris Hampton, longtime blogger and co-founder of the WYSIWYG Talent Show, a small-operation all-blogger performance event tucked away in Manhattan’s East Village. Of course, by "funny" she must mean can’t-hardly-breathe, falling-out-of-chairs hilarious, because her allegedly ho-hum story about her ex-girlfriend (detailing the worst sex she’d ever had — on Valentine’s Day, with a staffer in a home for developmentally disabled adults) became the platform for Worst. Sex. Ever. , the first WYSIWYG showcase to appear on the Performance Space 122 stage.

When tickets for the first show sold out, it was clear that there was something larger afoot than just a blogger reading. With the help of writer-performer Andy Horwitz and Dan "Sparky" Rhatigan, WYSIWYG soon commanded a monthly slot at P.S. 122, with a half-dozen talented bloggers regularly turning their once semi-private thoughts into three-dimensional confessions.

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Dialing Under the Influence

By Jocelyn Voo
Curve magazine | June 2005

Inevitably, sometime between the first round and last call on a Friday night, my cell phone will buzz with at least one new slur-message: “Jocelynnn, where are yooou? We’re down at Beckett’s and we’re so f**king drunk!” Thankfully, my friends and I have an understanding that whatever egregious things are said while under the influence are never held entirely against anyone, but rather become fodder for constant, unabashed ridicule during the next happy hour.

Unfortunately, though, such convenient arrangements are the anomaly in most relationships. How many times have you indiscriminately dialed an ex, your parents or worse? Yes, we all know that vodka tonic-saturated fingers have minds of their own, but such excuses don’t fly particularly well with irate mothers when you long-distance call at 1 a.m. just to say you absolutely will not reconsider dating men.

But I take solace in the fact that I am not the only victim of drinking and dialing. In fact, drunk dialing has become such a common social phenomenon (dare I say it’s an after-hours pastime for some?) that several services have cropped up in response to it, like, where intoxicated people can leave their drunken messages to be recorded and played for the public online.

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Stacyann Chin: More Than a Mouthful

By Jocelyn Voo
Curve magazine | June 2005

For anyone who doubts that a diminutive, 110-pound pixie of an individual can carry a one-woman show, you obviously haven’t seen Staceyann Chin’s solo performance Border/Clash: A Litany of Desires . Or, more importantly, heard her slamming poetry lines with such artillery fire rapidity and precision, you’d think the special effects team was doing a stage trick with her mic.

No stranger to the spotlight, the 30-year-old Broadway veteran has a lengthy resume that includes countless national slam poetry titles and stage performances, largely thanks to being fed a steady diet of crisis and curiosity since she was a child in Jamaica.

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Evening the Playing Field: Girl Gamers

By Jocelyn Voo
Curve magazine | January 2005

In the virtual gaming world, real-life female programmers have always seemed to take a back-seat to the busty, lusty Lara Croft-esque digital women created by their male counterparts. That may no longer be the case. Banding together last fall to represent a tiny minority in the vast video game industry, five female software executives and educators held the first women’s gaming conference in Austin, Texas, and created a steering committee on women in video gaming. Though the committee is as of yet unnamed and they have no headquarters for their operations, they do have a specific objective: to encourage more females to join the male-dominated gaming industry. According to Jason Della Rocca, program director for the International Game Developers Association, only 10 to 15 percent of the association are women.

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